Save The Marriage vs Divorce
There is always a chance for couples to save the marriage relationships, no matter how bleak everything may seem to look. In fact, there are many ways that you can do so even if your partner does not acknowledge the problem. Divorce should never be the way out because the truth is: marriages are built for a lifetime. They are real hard work, yes. But they are something that is worth working hard for.
Marriages can be different. However, every marriage needs to have two common things to survive: love and respect. The wife especially needs unconditional love which entails openness, constant communication, honesty, forgiveness, acceptance and time. The husband needs unconditional respect. This may be a foreign concept but we will have more on that in another article.
Open communication is also a very important factor to a happy and healthy marriage. This is because not showing your emotions and hiding them from your partner can slowly lead to resentment and hate. Problems can only be solved when there is open communication. But remember, open communication should be respectful and non-confrontational. If you find something that you do not like in a relationship, ask your partner to sit down and talk it over. Never let your emotions get the hold of you because they will not lead you to any solution.
Aside from that, happy marriages should also be about forgiveness. Keeping grudges and holding on to past hurts will slowly eat your relationship from the inside out. Remember, forgiveness does not mean that you are okay with your spouse's wrong doings. It merely means that you are willing to give your relationship another try and that you accept your spouse's apology for the things that have happened. Never be stubborn or revengeful because this will slowly destroy your marriage as well.
It Will Take Time To Save The Marriage
Relationships will take time so always have plenty to spend with your spouse. Learn to do things together and never have second thoughts of showing your partner you care. This will reaffirm the bond that you have vowed to keep during marriage.
And finally, couples should learn to accept each other. Acceptance is the willingness to love your partner for what he or she really is. If your partner is real messy, then you should be ready to go the extra mile to clean up. If he or she is a neat freak, then be prepared to deal with him or her fussing around over every little thing. Remember, your spouse's bad qualities will not go away after you are married. So be ready to love the good and the bad things about him or her for the rest of your life together. Acceptance in a way is synonymous to love. This is because it is simply impossible to love someone if you cannot accept him or her for what he or she really is.
Respect And Love Could Save The Marriage
Over the years, couples may get too used to having each other around and they forget how their partners should be treated. But real love should transcend time. Love means giving support for a partner even when he or she does not give support back to you. It means showing him or her courtesy even when you do not receive the same in return. You should never treat your partner the way he or she treats you. Rather, always do everything that you think is loving, respectful and best for your spouse. In time, he or she will eventually realize this act of love and begin to reciprocate.
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